Personal Transformation
“Be miserable or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
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“Between stimulus and response is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our reponse lies our growth and our freedom. ”
Victor Frankel
Discover what is possible for you to choose…
· The compelling need to transform self-doubt/self-negation into self-love/self-acceptance/self-respect…
· The goal of becoming emotionally intelligent enough to handle difficult situations and conflicts with other people…
· An enduring commitment to re-parent one’s self and, in the process, clean up old habits/patterns of reactivity by allowing old wounds to heal, at last and lastingly…
· The deep desire to move beyond heartbreak and find the wherewithal to do what it takes to leave the pain of the past behind…
· The urgent need to successfully get free of a bad habit, an addiction or a compulsive behavior as well as establish self-trust and confidence
· The resolution to break a habit of negativity where only the “bad” is noticed all the time (the flaws, the mistakes, the disappointments) and instead notice ALL of the good by becoming self-affirming and life-affirming once again
· Fulfilling the heart’s desire to be more evolved and spiritually awakened, as well as establishing a pervading sense of extraordinary well-being.
Ask yourself why…
Why is it so hard to get free of old habits and to shake off the entrapment of even the mildest of addictive patterns?
Why is it so darn difficult to own up to our mistakes and failings, to get to the bottom of why we act and react so disrespectfully sometimes?
Why do we resist revealing our vulnerabilities, our needs and the deepest desires of our heart?
Why do we keep trying to suppress and hide from our past wounds, fears, shame and humiliations?
What does it mean to transform?
Transformation means to “change in composition, structure or character.”
To transform as individuals means that we will live life as awakened beings who are ensuring that our conscious selves are running our lives from our deliberate choices, instead of unconsciously allowing our reactive selves, our defense structures and our negative egos to run the show.
What can I expect?
Sessions are spent offering a space of respectful listening so that you, the client, can offload grievances, upsets and speak to the unfulfilled longings you have in trying to be a better person whom you would admire.
We will spend time understanding your underlying motivations for seeking certain goals and figure out why is it that you have not achieved your goals for personal growth and evolution yet. Then, we will design a strategy for getting free of the past and for attaining the fulfillment of those goals.
As a counselor I believe that a good portion of my job is basic and simple: to be an expert guide, a teacher and a support system for my clients in bringing:
· clarity where there is confusion
· certainty where there is doubt
· peace where there is conflict
· calm where there is upset.
Sometimes this means that my client and I have a great deal of work to do in order to achieve the states of freedom and happiness they so long for. In other cases, they successfully “pop through to the other side” pretty quickly.
How fast and easily this process goes all depends on how much wounding from the past is in the way, what substance or behavioral addictions are present and how ready a client is to becoming seated in their true self, i.e., the conscious self that can steer their life where they want it to go.
How does Lonnie use the Enneagram’s Self-discovery System with her clients?
As a tool for personal growth the Enneagram is incredibly useful in showing an individual’s best strategy and pathway for evolution, taking into account their personal defense structures and core wounds.
I have found that no other system so comprehensively allows a counselor to guide a client on their path, as it unfolds, with precision and speedy results – allowing the client to keep relaxing the grip of their defenses and become more of who they are at their core -- in their heart and soul, accessing their innate wisdom and the responses of their better self.
Most importantly the Enneagram personality system is a short cut to knowing ourselves deeply and in very little time anchoring ourselves in our best self, as we find our own style of growing and evolving.
Of course, using the insights of the Enneagram is also fantastic in terms of bringing empathy, understanding and compassion to the disagreements, conflicts and misunderstandings found so often in couples, in families and close partnerships of any kind.
What if I’m starting from ground zero?
Sometimes clients spend their time with me waking up and growing up. Other clients are ready to move on to the cleaning up of their past wounds, making amends for any current messes.
Some clients are finally ready to show up as their true selves, anchored in their life purpose as they evolve into their higher self at will and able to create a life of extraordinary well-being on a daily basis.
No matter what phase you are in, we will move at your pace in whatever direction you choose, gaining momentum as you start to feel better, respond better, do better and be your best self. It’s a rewarding journey!
Example Box:
Don’t you want to take your “OK” life and move it to the next level of feeling happy, alive and thriving?”
Would you be willing to get free of the pain of the past so that you can have extraordinary fulfillment?
Are you ready to follow your own path of evolution and become the person you were meant to be?
What others are saying:
“I am therapy skeptic, yet I am also a more than enthusiastic champion for Lonnie Green’s work. Several of the people whom I referred to her have spoken to me often of her invaluable service in helping them to help themselves – to create a higher ground for their lives by stepping out of the victim role into greater acceptance, as well as into the pursuit of re-creating self-identity and emotional maturity – not just to restore normalcy, but rather to re-invent it -- with her down-home, intelligent, day-at-a-time approach..”
— Ross K. Sebastopol, CA
“Lonnie has been an instrumental part of my life these past few months. Her gentle and loving ways of encouraging me to live in alignment with my heart and soul and take actions that are “above the line” in my relationships have proven to be life- changing. I can’t imagine going through these difficult times and transitions without her heartfelt active listening skills that have helped me understand myself in a more deep and beautiful way.”
— Jaime H. Bend, OR